There are 3 things that I miss at the moment:
1. Aleksa – when we were worshiping yesterday evening I had my eyes closed for a couple of minutes. Then I opened them to check where Aleksa was. I half expected him to be at my feet with his arms held up waiting for me to pick him up. I really wanted to give him a cuddle.
2. Anya – I would love to just watch her here. There is so much for her to learn from the people here and I know she’d be just going around doing her own thing, picking up information and storing it away for when it would be useful. She’d love the big house we’re in with all it’s nooks and crannies to hide away and I know she’d go down a storm with everyone.
3. Rada – I really miss talking to her. The internet is not great so Skyping attempts have been really frustrating. It’s a long way from the 20p a minute phone calls we used to have to settle for just after we met but that thought doesn’t help. I want to tell Rada all the great things that God is doing and all the details about the people here. More than that I would love her to meet them all she would love it so much with all the languages and cultures and crazy people.
Ah well, I’m having a wonderful time. Enjoying it immensly but missing the family.
Tim Simmonds has blogged about Planting Churches with Ninja Children. It reminded me how much I take for granted how versatile and giving kids can be when it comes to the disruption and lack of routine that come with church planting.
It is a real privilege having our children share the church planting journey with us. It is inspiring to have them with us at midweek group, they are great company in the car and in general it is simply nice to do be doing something productive and worthwhile together. It also gives children great opportunities to improve their social skills as they meet new people and gain an understanding of the wider world – Anya regularly interacts with people from all sorts of cultures and is confident talking to with people with disabilities and addictions.
But there is a cost that church planting demands of children. Sometimes it requires a change of school and they won’t get to hang out and make friends with as many children their own age as they might at bigger churches. We are told time and again that children, and especially babies, need routine but when you’re taking the kids along to evening meetings and out all day on a Sunday then a routine can be impossible to keep!
Nevertheless, all these experiences do help a child to learn resilience and interdependence – essential skills for life. I was wondering though, and would welcome input from those who may have had similar experiences, what areas or experiences would it be helpful for us to be particularly purposeful about providing for our two children? Is there anything that it would be wise to put in place to make sure they don’t miss out on any specific area of spiritual or social growth?
I’m proud as punch. I can’t actually believe I’ve got a son. The birth was incredible. Rada was wonderful, it is unbelievable how traumatic birth is but she persevered right to the end…and now we have Aleksa 🙂
Welcome to the world Aleksa
He arrived at 1.30am so I only got a couple of hours sleep the first night but I am not complaining one bit. There’s stinks to change, crying in the night, loads of extra work but it is worth all of it and much more.
Anya has been a star too. It’s no easy task being the only child for nearly eight years and then suddenly becoming a big sister. But she’s working hard at adapting and being incredibly helpful. She has great character and I can’t wait to see how Aleksa’s develops too.
I’m so thankful to God for my family and for the health of all of us. Something never to be taken for granted. I can’t wait for the adventure ahead!
Relaxing at home after a big night out